In case you missed it, we’re living through an actual epidemic of loneliness right now. So, if you’re struggling with things like social anxiety, making friends, or feeling lonely, you’re not alone. That said, reframing and relishing in your alone time can be great for your mental health too. Just ask Wondermind’s co-founder and Chief Impact Officer Selena Gomez. This Mental Health Awareness Month, we sat down with Selena to find out how she stays connected, recharges solo, and navigates any social awkwardness (she’s just like us!).
WM: When do you feel the most connected? Who are you with and what are you doing?
Selena Gomez: I love quality time with my family and friends. That is when I feel the most connected. Playing board games, watching movies, cooking. It usually doesn’t matter what we are doing as long as we are together.
WM: Do you often feel lonely?
SG: I used to hate to be alone. I always had someone around me, but now I cherish my alone time. I find it’s a way for me to recharge.
WM: What are some of your favorite things to do solo? If you had to spend a day completely by yourself, how would you spend it?
SG: A bath, taking a steam, getting a massage—that’s not alone but basically anything around the feeling of unwinding and feeling relaxed.
WM: How do you maintain your friendships when you (and your friends!) are so busy?
SG: You have to make your friendships a priority. I’ve been working extremely long hours lately and I was at a shoot the other week, I had some down time, so I took the time to catch up with some of my friends. I want to know what’s happening in their lives and not feel disconnected. Even if it’s a text or FaceTime, that goes a long way if you know you aren’t going to be able to see each other in person.
WM: Your connection with your Only Murders In The Building co-stars seems so authentic and enriching. Despite being from different generations, what are some things that you bond over?
SG: They are two of the kindest, most considerate men I’ve met in my life. I am lucky to know them. We bond over so much at this point. I definitely feel like the third amigo. They also give the best advice.
WM: When was the last time you felt FOMO?
SG: I try not to live with it—not saying that’s always easy but I don’t want to put the energy in worrying about what other people are doing. It’s not healthy.
WM: Social anxiety is something a lot of our readers struggle with. Is that something you can relate to? If so, how do you navigate feeling anxious or awkward in social situations?
SG: Yes, there are times when I am in certain situations and can feel anxious. Sometimes, I know why I feel that way and other times I can’t explain where it is coming from. I am wired to just push through things, but I think also hearing other people in the room are feeling the same way helps make you feel like you aren’t alone. I am very happy we are all talking about these types of things now. It does make a difference to know you aren’t the only one.
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